Doosron ki tareef par gussa kyun aata hai? Ise kaise rokein?

Answered 6 October 2026 at 1:06 am PKT

Jab aap kisi cheez mein acha hon aur kisi aur ko bhi usi mein acha dekhein, toh gussa aana bilkul aam baat hai. Is page par hum yeh samjhenge ke yeh jazba kyun paida hota hai aur isse ignore karke apni self-esteem ko kaise behtar banaya jaye.

Mujhe pata hai main best hoon aur tareef bhi hoti hai, lekin jab koi aur wohi kaam acha kare (jaise cooking), toh mujhe gussa aata hai. Main ignore karna chahti hoon, lekin kaise?

Yeh jo aap mehsoos karti hain, iska matlab yeh nahi ke aap bure insaan hain. Jab koi cheez humare liye ehmiyat rakhti hai — chahe woh cooking ho, kaam ho, ya koi skill — toh doosre ko usme acha dekhte hi ek chubhan hona bilkul insaani hai. Aap apni mehntat aur tareef ke baawajood yeh mehsoos karti hain, iska matlab hai ke aap is cheez se sach mein judi hui hain. Yeh feeling aapki kamzori nahi, aapki tawajjo ki nishani hai.

Yeh gussa kyun aata hai

Yeh anger aksar isliye hota hai kyunke hum sochte hain: "Agar woh bhi yeh acha kar rahi hai, toh meri khaas baat kya rahi?" Lekin sach yeh hai ke duniya mein koi cheez ek hi insaan ke paas nahi hoti. Aapki cooking ki apni pehchaan hai — uske taste, uske andaaz, usme jo aapki muhabbat hai. Doosri koi apna andaaz layi hai, woh aapka muqaabla nahi kar rahi.

Aazmane ke liye chhoti cheezein

Pehchaan lijiye aur naam dijiye: Jab gussa aaye, dil mein keh dijiye "Mujhe jealousy ho rahi hai." Bas itna soch lena aadha faida kar deta hai.
Apni tareef khud maangiye: Jab koi aur acha kaam kare, aap keh sakti hain "Wah, yeh bahut acha bana hai, mujhe seekhna hai." Iss se aapki apni izzat kam nahi hoti, balke log aapko dariyadil samajhte hain.
Kuch der ke liye door ho jaiye: Agar gussa zyada ho, toh us waqt reply karne ki bajaye bas chup ho jaiye. Aap baad mein soch sakti hain ke kya baat thi.

Sabse zaroori baat: aapko yeh feeling aati hai, lekin aap ispar amal nahi karti. Yeh already aapki jeet hai. Dheere dheere yeh chubhan kam hoti jayegi, aur aap apne kaam par apna dhyan rakhengi — kyunke aapka andaaz aur aapki tareef wohi hai jo sirf aapka hai.

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Aakhri update
7 October 2026

dusron ki tareef par gussa aana jealousy ka ilaj doosron se comparison band karein self-esteem improve karne ka tareeqa Pakistan mein khud-aetmaadi ke masail jalne ki aadat kaise khatam karein Pakistani aurton mein hasad ka masla

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