My Classmate Sabotaged Me in a Quiz: Set Boundaries or Cut Her Off?

It’s genuinely hard to feel let down by someone you trusted, especially a classmate. You’re right to feel confused—it’s not easy to decide how to handle this. Here’s what you can do:

What to think about

• This is about her, not you. People who play tricks often do it to feel in control, not because you’ve done anything wrong.
• It’s okay to feel hurt. You don’t have to ignore it—your feelings matter.
• Think about what you’ve lost. If she’s been a good friend in other ways, maybe you can fix this. If not, it’s okay to step back.

What to do

• Talk to her first. Be honest but calm. Say, “I felt really let down when you didn’t include me in the quiz. It made me question if I can trust you.” See what she says.
• Set a clear boundary. If she does it again, tell her you won’t work with her on group work. You don’t have to explain why.
• If she doesn’t change, it’s okay to distance yourself. You don’t need people like this in your life.

Trust your gut. If this keeps happening, it’s not your job to fix her—it’s your job to protect yourself.