Moving On After Being Blocked: A Guide to Healing

Aap have been hurt, and that is genuinely hard. The first thing is to stop messaging them - it won’t change the block, and it will keep the pain fresh every time. Someone who blocked you has closed the door, and no amount of messages will open it.

What is happening here

When someone you cared about shuts you out, it’s like a wound: your brain keeps going back to it, even though it hurts. Your appetite is gone because your mind is stuck on them, and that uses up energy that your body needs for hunger.

What to do about it

• Put your phone down. Don’t message them again. Every message from you is an invitation to hurt you, and they have already made their choice.
• Distract yourself. That’s the only way out of the loop. Watch a show, talk to a friend, go for a walk, anything that takes your mind off them for a few minutes. It won’t work straight away, but it will if you keep doing it.
• Look after yourself. Eat small amounts even when you don’t feel like it. Water and fruit are good for this. Your body needs care, and it will help your mood.

What to expect

This will hurt for a while, and that’s normal: it’s how you know that you cared. But the pain will fade, starting with the times when you’re busy or sleeping. One day you will remember them and feel nothing, and that day will come.

Aap are not the first person this has happened to. It is not a sign of weakness, or a character flaw, or anything you did wrong. It is what happens when someone closes a door.