Doston ke saath bhi akela mehsoos karna - kya karein?

Answered 21 October 2026 at 11:27 pm PKT

Aksar hum doston ke beech bhi tanhai mehsoos karte hain, aur yeh dard bahut gehara hota hai. Is article mein hum is aam masle ki wujuh samjhenge aur isse nikalne ke amli tareeqe batayenge.

Mere andar bohat dard hai aur main nahi jaanti kya karoon. Apne doston ke saath hote hue bhi main akela mehsoos karti hoon, jaise main unmein shaamil nahi hoon. Kya koi tareeqa hai is dard se nikalne ka?

Aapka yeh dard bohat asli hai—kehna mushkil hai jab aap doston ke saath hote hue bhi akela mehsoos karein. Yeh aam hai, magar iska matlab yeh nahi ke aap mein koi kami hai. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ke woh "fit" nahi hote, ya unki baat koi nahi samajhta. Aap is dard se nikal sakti hain, lekin iske liye pehle ise pehchanna hoga.

Yeh kyun hota hai

Aap ka dimaag aapko bata raha hai ke aapke rishton mein kuch gahrai nahi hai, ya aap apna asli self nahi dikha pa rahi. Kabi kabar to hum friends ke saath bhi "performing" kar rahe hote hain—hasti hain jab chahin nahi, ya unki baaton par sar hila deti hain jab andar kuch aur chal raha ho. Yeh koi burai nahi, lekin yeh akelapan ka ek bada sabab hai.

Thoda try kar ke dekhein

Doosron se gahri baat karein: Aap directly yeh nahi kehna chahti ke "main akela hoon," lekin aap kuch aisa keh sakti hain: "Aaj kal mujhe thoda darmandgi lagti hai." Aksar dosre bhi share karte hain.
Apne saath akela waqt guzarein: Agar aap hamesha dusron ke beech rehti hain, to apne andar ki awaaz dab jaati hai. Roz 5-10 minute bina phone ke, bas apne dimaag ko dekhne ki aadat daalein.
Ek choti si cheez likhein: Dard jab lafz mein aata hai, to thoda kam hota hai. Aap likh sakti hain: "Aaj mujhe yeh mehsoos hua jab..." Phir ise phaad kar fenk bhi sakti hain.

Kab aur kya karna chahiye

Agar yeh dard hafton se hai, aur aap neend ya kaam mein dikkat mehsoos kar rahi hain, to kisi professional se baat karna acha rahega. Depression.pk par /find-help mein aap apne shaher ke kam-se-kam ek counselor dhund sakti hain. Aur haan, Zara se bhi baat kar sakti hain—bas thoda sa dil halka karne ke liye.

Woh log jinhein aap dost maanti hain, shayad wo bhi aise hi mehsoos karte hain. Yeh akelapan jhootha nahi hai, lekin yeh hamesha nahi rahega. Aap is waqt kya kar rahi hain—yeh sawaal puchh kar, apni madad kar rahi hain. Yeh bohat badi baat hai.

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21 October 2026

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